Anger Management and Violence at Home.

By Colin Jones

How is anger management connected with domestic violence? Well, put simply, most people that abuse their partner in this kind of situation, are angry due to some anti-social disorder in their subconscious mind. Anger is one of the main symptoms of personality disorder, which include paranoia, schizophrenia, schizoid, antisocial, psychopathic, histrionic and sociopathic personalities.

Many people that are abusive in relationships have anti-social personalities. The anti-social personality type of person often attacks when he or she is drunk or under the influence of some drug or other. This is not true in all instances of course, but it is true in most circumstances. Anti-social personality types often disobey rules and regulations and usually feel that they are allowed to do so. Anti-social personality types are controlling and if you do not allow their authority, they often show their anger in a controlling or violent manner.

Anti-social types will often humiliate, intimidate, brutally physically abuse and mentally belittle their spouse, but domestic abuse doesn't usually finish there. This type of individual has never proven to be a likely candidate for anger management recovery. In other words, men that batter their wives will usually continue to do so until someone gets seriously injured. It is not a good idea to engage with this type of person, as there is hardly any hope at all of them responding to anger management methods. This sort of person will often beat a spouse, until all they want is to kill them. This means that someone could very likely die, since this sort of person will get angrier and angrier as the years pass and will rarely ask for advice in order to manage their anger in domestic violence situations.

Even if he or she does get anger management help for domestic violence, it very often fails. It is not recommended that you start a relationship with this sort of person. The signs are a wild appearance or wild expressions, laughing for no apparent purpose, laughing in a situation where a person was harmed, outbursts of anger for no reason et cetera. This type of person is superficial and will often lead you to believe that he or she is a model for society, whereas behind closed doors the brute appears.

Hate is the underlying source of this person's anger, and hate has proven to kill. A deep-seated jealousy is also underlying the anger issues within these types of individuals. Many of this type of angry persons take drugs, including cocaine, crack, marijuana and others. They often exceed the safety limit of alcohol consumption and this only increases the odds of them flying into a rage.

One example of bad anger management and domestic violence can be seen in a small town called Dowagiac in Michigan. A man attempted to kill several women but was allowed to go free. Little anger management help was provided to this person, and often his outrageous attacks were simply because he could not control the victims involved. The victims were left without justice, and a few even believed that he would change his angry ways.

Pretty soon he was sitting in the county gaol on a string of charges, including assault of a police officer and hit and run. The police, according to witnesses, claim that the criminal had a weapon and was drunk when he tried to elude the police and marijuana was found in his car. This person had a continuous history of violence but the justice system let those victims down, which led to more anger management problems.

Another example of anger is in borderline personality types. These people, when feeling abandoned, will lash out at others. Sometimes they are physically abusive, but most of the time they are verbally and mentally abusive. The spouse has only to go to work and when he or she returns home, they will be accused of doing something wrong.

The abusive person with anger management problems might even call the workplace of the partner many times a day to verify that he or she is not spending time with someone else. This is another type of domestic violence from an angry person that seldom gets better, and like the anti-social personality types, these people are dangerous and manipulative.

Paranoid types are also dangerous and manipulative but their anger can never be predicted. In most cases, these types act on voices perceived to be inside or outside their head. Like the antisocial types, the paranoid type rarely has justifiable reason for their behaviour. In most cases, it is merely a control issue. This means that if the victim is uncontrollable he or she will react angrily and violently. - 30415

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